You are going to be 40 soon, I am almost 60, and yes you did live that long. The kids are out of the house, you have grandchildren. You and your lovely bride are finally able to breathe and be husband and wife again without a child crisis to manage. Even though you end up with differing political views, food tastes, and priorities you love one another so bank on that during the final years of the kids growing up.
Everything you thought you knew for certain about your faith is different now. All those bible classes you took. All the rock and roll albums you threw out, you will wish you had those back. The books you sold at garage sales that didn’t jibe with what you learned was good Christian you will want to repurchase. God is much bigger and able to handle these things. Your kids turned out all right. You will have a pretty extensive library, all of which will have gently guided you to realize the power of the Gods grace.
Certain lessons need a future perspective. James Dobson was not always right. Nor was Promise Keepers they all had a good intentions going into things but ultimately it turns out to be more about money. Children should be raised to question, to enjoy sights and smells around them. If possible pay for them to go to Europe (or anywhere not North America), after high school, in your case it won’t be possible unless I can rewrite your future. See World Series winner below.
You will find that the time you lived in Christian Community in the 80’s has given you a good outlook in the future. Forgive and move on.
Don’t loan your kids money, no relationship is worth being based upon debt. Instead give them money when they need it, overflowing pressed down and poured on their lap. It’s only money and you have outlived them so far. People will tell you you need to give them good money management lessons, that’s fine, but they are your kids and that’s how your dad did it. On Money share everything with your wife, no secrets, start saving now and don’t touch it. You were just unemployed for a year and your children never went hungry. God will provide. If they ask they receive, unless you don’t have it.
In the early 21st Century some guys will fly some planes into some buildings and everything will change. Don’t listen to fear or hate, it will be very difficult once that happens. Unfortunately some of the people you know now will show their true colors and become afraid. Love them anyway they are misguided about behavior and ultimately I hope they will come around eventually.
On your Christian faith, You will learn some things that won’t make sense to other people. Grace is awesome and will free you from so much doubt and worry. Remember to breathe and when you are unsure remember to go down the path that feels peaceful. You will forget this lesson a choose a very difficult job. But you will form some deep lasting relationships.
The most powerful active force in the universe is God’s grace. Not “Bonhoffer” grace, but for free, violent, vulgar life changing grace.
“My life is a witness to vulgar grace–a grace that amazes as it offends. A grace that pays the eager beaver who works all day long the same wages as the grinning drunk who shows up a ten till five. A grace that hikes up the robe and runs breakneck toward the prodigal reeking of sin and wraps him up and decides to throw a party no ifs, ands or buts. A grace that raises bloodshot eyes to a dying theif’s request–”Please, remember me”–and assures him, “You bet!” A grace that is the pleasure of the Father, fleshed out in the carpenter Messiah, Jesus the Christ, who left His Father’s side not for heaven’s sake but for our sakes, yours and mind.
This vulgar grace is indiscriminate compassion. It works without asking anything of us. It’s not cheap. It’s free, and as such will always be a banana peel for the orthodox foot and a fairy tale for the grown-up sensibility. Grace is sufficient even though we huff and puff with all our might to try to find something or someone it cannot cover. Grace is enough. He is enough. Jesus is enough.” Brennon Manning
You will open a not for profit Cafe to hopefully give the poor a dignified meal, if you hire alcoholics make sure they are in a 12 step program and going to meetings, it will make the place run better, when you hire a board, make sure they are just as interested in raising money as they are the mission. Ultimately you will find that everything you wrote into the vision statement you are working on will become a reality, so dream big. No bigger!
You will change your mind from a behavior based faith (you actually do measure up) to a being based faith. However there will be a time that will make the adjustment logical in your life. God is truly in control of all things.
Rom. 11:36 For from him and through him and to him are all things. To him be the glory forever! Amen.
Rom. 12:1 Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God — this is your spiritual act of worship. 2 Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is — his good, pleasing and perfect will.
Rom. 12:3 For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you. 4 Just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, 5 so in Christ we who are many form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. 6 We have different gifts, according to the grace given us. If a man’s gift is prophesying, let him use it in proportion to his faith.
The meal together is important for life and family, messy meals are fine. As long as people are together sharing food and conversation.
On music, Christians on a whole still don’t do a good job with music.
The World Series will be canceled in 1994 due to a baseball strike.
And just in case you need some extra cash in 2012:
The San Francisco Giants win the World Series over the Detroit Tigers in 4 games. Yes you are still a Tigers fan.
Super Bowl XLVI The New York Giants will be at the New England Patriots 21-17.
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